Divorce is hard on everyone involved. It's hard on husbands and wives losing the person they thought they would spend the rest of their lives with. Wrapped up in their own emotions and stresses, parents sometimes forget how hard divorce is on their children. A simple, off-handed negative comment about an ex-spouse or an intense argument in front of the children can cause undue stress to the children.
According to family law specialist Stacy Phillips, there are ways to keep children from experiencing additional grief during the divorce process. She offers the following advice:
- Do not speak ill of or argue with your ex-spouse in front of your children
- Arrange schedules and attendance at important events ahead of time, so there are no last-minute surprises
- Be a positive example for your children, even if your ex-spouse is not
- Pay attention to your children's feelings, not focusing on your feelings of ill will toward your ex-spouse. Have custodial and visitation transitions planned ahead of time
Remember that, in the end, no matter the emotions and feelings you have toward your former spouse, if there are children involved, their well-being needs to come above all else. When your children are present, stop and think about your actions and words.
If you are involved in a divorce or other family law matter, speak with an experienced family law and divorce lawyer in your area. An experienced lawyer can help you understand your rights and options under the law.
